When a narcissist says that you did something crazy, however, (in reality,) YOU did something completely normal, they are using a manipulative tool called, “Projection”.
Projection means they are pointing out their own faults but blaming their faults on you. In other words, they are crazy, but telling you that you’re crazy, trying to make it seem like you are the one who’s crazy, when the whole time, it is they who are crazy, not you!
Here is an example:
I worked very hard, so I got a promotion; and the boss awarded me with an apartment.
I sent a video of the apartment to somebody… And when they asked me if I was sharing it with somebody,
(which automatically infers that you cannot afford it yourself…)
My Response Was:
This is where PROJECTION comes in:
Her response was:
“You replied with something crazy, and it was all in caps lock.”
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